Pride in relationships and the stagnations it causes

With pride, there are many curses. With humility, there come many blessings. ~Ezra Taft Benson

A conscious relationship demands more of the You and the Me for the Us to evolve and requires immediate action to avoid stagnation.

Stagnation is bad for all parts of the relationship, and the longer the stagnation, the bigger the crises.

This is simply just not allowed in a conscious relationship.

We are each other’s mirrors, reflecting the best and worst of each other.

Any and all blocks in the way of relationship harmony has immediate consequences for the Us.

Emotions such as ego and pride are more eroding in a conscious relationship as they are felt immediately. Therefore, they must be dealt with swiftly and with compassion.

Pride has caused my relationship to stagnate.

Somewhere deep within me resides the belief that the number of years and life experiences I have accumulated had an advantage over that of my younger girlfriend.

This belief dictated actions, and non-actions, creating detrimental situations and relationship imbalances as a consequence.

Pride in my relationship narrowed my view and dulled my perception. Effectively filtering, if not completely removing, love, understanding, and compassion from the situation and ultimately from the relationship.

Conscious action in process

There are two kinds of pride, both good and bad. ‘Good pride’ represents our dignity and self-respect. ‘Bad pride’ is the deadly sin of superiority that reeks of conceit and arrogance. ~John C. Maxwell

Receptive to the pain and frustration my pride has inflicted on my partner’s heart, I am in the process of purging this sin of mine.

I have understood from where my pride stems, how it is expressing itself, and how it is affecting my relationship.

Before I can fully integrate and transcend the sin of pride, I need to thoroughly interact with its “whys” viewing and feeling it from all possible perspectives.

This is a process that needs to be done in solitude, and with my partner, to take another step towards a more harmonious relationship. Not to mention the burden we both will leave behind.

~Dne